*Perceptions of the Male Role*   Watts, R.H., Jr.,  Borders, L.D. (2005). Boys perceptions of the male role: Understanding gender role conflict in adolescent males. The Journal of Men Studies, 13 (2), 267-280.   Randolph Watts Jr. and L. Di Anne Borders of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro reported on small interview groups of adolescent males enrolled in North Carolina public schools. The adolescents were also members of a local youth organization. The eleven participants ranged in age from 1418 (M = 16.2 years; SD = 1.18). Nine participants were Caucasian, one was African-American, and one was an international student (Eastern European). The participants took part in individual and group interviews, with the focus of the interview being constructs represented within gender role conflict theory(p. 270).

Their first research question dealt with restricted affect between men, and they reported support for the gender role conflict theory of restricted affectionate behavior between men(p. 271). The participants shared stories and concerns related to being labeled gay if they shared or demonstrated affection toward another male. Other participants reported not having feelings of affection for friends who were male.  Another research question delved into the broader question of possible restricted emotionality among adolescent boys. Again, many boys said it was inappropriate to express emotions that they felt because that came across as not masculine or ‘unmanly(p. 271). Several boys indicated that anger or rage were the only acceptable emotions for expression. As the researchers put it, the more sensitive the emotion, the more difficult to express(p. 272).  The remaining questions dealt with perceived conflicts between work or school and family, need for success or achievement, and gender role conflict. The researchers concluded that the participants in this small study seemed to support the validity of gender role conflict in adolescent boys.  For the Christian counselor, this study raises interesting questions about what is biblical masculinity and how is it to be shaped and expressed in terms of gender role? It would be interesting to conduct a similar study within a distinctively Christian context and perhaps compare experiences, attitudes, and perceptions.    *Internet Pornography*  Yoder, V.C., Virden, III, T.B.,  Amin, K. (2005). Internet pornography and loneliness: An association? Sexual Addiction  Compulsivity, 12, 19-44.   Vincent Yoder and his colleagues from Argosy University studied the relationship between Internet pornography use and loneliness. They reported on 400 Internet users; 114 females and 286 males ranging in age from 2161 (53.5% Caucasian and 23% married). The researchers predicted that increased time viewing Internet pornography would correlate with higher rates of loneliness.  The researchers found support for a relationship between Internet pornography use and loneliness. In fact, the main predictor of loneliness was time spent viewing Internet pornography (number of days per week).

Interestingly, the second highest predictor of loneliness was non-pornographic use of the Internet. The researchers wondered if this association was due to less human contact found in particular employment settings.  Not surprising, males scored significantly higher than females on the loneliness scale. An additional interesting finding was related to clergy. Only six of the 400 participants were clergy. However, this group was the loneliest (by employment clusters). Again, the researchers considered whether this was due the stressors of employment and the unique position of authority and spiritual piety(p. 34) as it pertains to being clergy.  This study certainly confirms the intuitive sense many people have that there is a relationship between Internet pornography use and loneliness. Given the significant increase in Internet pornography, that is available via the Internet, it can be helpful to investigate the relationship between pornography use and loneliness and to begin to identity ways to prevent the misuse of the Internet.

*Myths About African-American Fathers*  Smith, C.A., Krohn, M.D., Chu, R.,  Best, O. (2005). African-American Fathers: Myths and realities about their involvement with their firstborn children. Journal of Family Issues, 27 (7), 975-1001.  This study is based upon data from the Rochester Youth Development Study, a longitudinal study of urban youth. Carolyn Smith and her colleagues from the University of Albany reported on young men who were fathers by age 22 (N = 193, 67% of whom identified as African-American, 21% Hispanic, and 12% White).  Smith and her colleagues make the case that The extant literature on father involvement tends to perpetuate an image of African-American fathers as absent or invisible.In this study, they examined father involvement in terms of contact and financial support. They found that African-American young fathers did not differ significantly from other young fathers in terms of support of, and contact with, their first biological child. For example, African-American fathers were not significantly less likely to reside with their eldest child than [were] other fathers(p. 988). Similarly, among fathers who [were] nonresidential, there [was] no significant difference in either the level of contact or the amount of financial support between African-American fathers and other fathers (p. 988).

The researchers also looked at what factors predicted involvement among African-American fathers. Interestingly, relationship conflict and public assistance were two particularly important variables. The degree of conflict that fathers have with the mothers of their children is inversely related to living with the child and receiving public assistance is positively related to co-residence(p. 995). In another analysis this time of nonresident African-American fathers  were less likely to have contact with their first biological child if the mother had a partner in her home. The biological father having another partner, however, or having other children in his home, did not lower the amount of contact or support for their biological child.  The researchers made the observation that level of involvement may still not be what it could be, that is, this is an area that can still be addressed and improved. But it would perpetuate a certain negative image to think of African-American fathers as absent or invisible,while the other fathers in this study were just as likely to be involved with (or absent from) their first biological child.

*Traditional Masculinity*  Burn, S.M.,  Ward, A.Z. (2005). Men conformity to traditional masculinity and relationship satisfaction. Psychology of Men  Masculinity, 6 (4), 254-263.  Shawn Burn and A. Zachary Ward of California Polytechnic State University report on a new measure of masculinity, the Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory (CMNI). The participants in the study were 170 male and 137 female undergraduate psychology students (M = 20.2 years, SD = 1.15), the majority of whom were Euro American (79.3%) (while 9.5% identified as Asian American, 5.9% as Latin American-Hispanic, 1.6% as African-American, and 1.6% as Pacific Islanders).

Among the hypotheses, the researchers expected that there would be a relationship between conformity to masculine norms and reduced relationship satisfaction for both men and women. The results suggest that conformity to traditional masculinity is negatively associated with relationship satisfaction for both men and women.  A second hypothesis dealt with how various sub scales (e.g., Emotional Control, Power Over Women, Pursuit of Status) would be negatively associated with relationship satisfaction for men and women. This hypothesis was supported for women but only received partial support for men. The final hypothesis predicted that these negative associations would be stronger for women (rating male partners) than for the men (rating themselves). This hypothesis was also supported: Men conformity to traditional masculine norms more greatly influences the relationship satisfaction of women(p. 260). The researchers recognize that the influence could be in either direction: Does conformity to traditional masculine norms decrease women relationship satisfaction or does decreased relationship satisfaction lead women to negatively stereotype their male partners as conforming to traditional masculinity norms?(p. 261).

The researchers suggest that a therapeutic application might be to discuss with clients ways in which conformity to cultural masculine norms is helpful and ways in which it may be less desirable, such as in intimate relationships. Such an approach avoids negative mes- sages about traditional masculinity and may facilitate meaningful reflection and discussion.   *Anger and Social Appraisal*   Ever, C., Fischer, A.H., Rodriquez Mosque , P.M.,  Man stead, A.S.R. (2005). Anger and social appraisal: A spicy sex difference? Emotion, 5 (3), 258-266.   Catherine Ever and her colleagues published an interesting study on anger expression and social appraisal. One hundred nineteen participants (50 men and 69 women who were under- graduate students at the University of Amsterdam) were in a fairly elaborate study comparing men and women social appraisal and expression of anger. Participants were randomly assigned to social and nonsocial conditions, meaning they were told they would meet the person who angered them (social) or would not meet that person (nonsocial). The expression of anger was operationalized as the amount of hot sauce participants gave to the person who made them angry.  The researchers reported that men and women did not show differences in the amount of anger they experienced. Gender differences lay in their expression of anger: men gave more hot sauce to the person with whom they were angry. The effect was moderated by the social condition: when participants did not think they would meet the person who angered them, men and women showed the same amount of expressed anger; however, when participants thought they would meet the person with whom they were angry, women expressed less anger than did men. Women were influenced more by possible negative consequences of expressing anger, and women also dis- played more empathic concern than did men.  Ever and her colleagues wonder whether these differences are related to how men and women are socialized to express anger. In any case, it is an interesting area of research and future studies may contribute to our understanding of gender differences in anger expression.   Mark A. Yarhouse, Psy.D., is associate professor of psychology at Regent University, Virginia Beach, Virginia. He is co-author (with Lori A. Burkett) of the book, Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living in the Time Between the Times (University Press of America).Take help from telephone psychologist.

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Over 3 out of every 10 men experience PE regularly and cannot last as long as they want during sex. This is regardless of race or age. Even though it affects a huge number of people, PE is not widely discussed by the men who experience it. Read this article to discover why men often have to suffer alone with their issue.

When sex ends prematurely, it’s common for men to just get on out of there. It can be very embarassing, and unsatisfying for both people. You just want to get it out of your mind. So you keep it to yourself and hope it doesn’t happen next time. Even long-term couples quite often endure total silence over the guy’s tendency to come quickly. It’s a tricky subject to bring up, for many reasons.

Why Don’t Couples Discuss Problems in the Bedroom?

Most men discuss their lives with their wife or partner. It’s a good way to get things off your mind and work through them to a solution. Why is PE different?

Well, sometimes orgasm issues can actually be brought on due to strain in the relationship. Perhaps there are money worries, or one partner is working a lot. If the couple is fighting or arguing most of the time, the resulting stress can actually cause PE to happen.

Even if the relationship is strong, it may be difficult for the woman to bring up the fact that her man is not satisfying her sexually. It is a huge blow to a man’s ego to hear this, and so more often than not, the problem is not discussed, and merely endured.

Finally, even if the couple does discuss it, they often do not know how to treat it. There are many myths around the famous ways to solve PE, such as the Squeeze technique or the Stop/Start method. The above methods can be frustrating, or even dangerous if done incorrectly. While there are actually some great books available on treating PE, a lot of people do not seek them out. Instead they look on the Internet and unfortunately find a lot of repetitive, incorrect information.

Why Can’t We Get Good Advice From Doctors?

Again, most people do not want to discuss PE with anybody! It’s just too painful. So doctors don’t get much experience with the nuances of this condition. It makes sense that they rely on what their industry is telling them to do: and that is to treat PE with drugs. There are many medications, such as Priligy, that are regularly prescribed as PE treatments. They are prescribed readily because they are similar to anti-depressants (they are SSRIs), which are also widely recommended these days. The doctor gives you these pills, and their job is done, right?

Not really – the problem with these medications is that they are addictive, have bad side effects, and do not work toward actually curing this issue. If you take this type of medication you can experience side effects like dizziness, seizures, mood swings, and even suicidal thoughts OR loss of erection.

So, instead of looking at alternative treatments, the doctor could end up causing you to not be able to have sex at all! You really need to have looked at all your options before taking this type of medication because the risk is high, especially when they do not even cure you.

In non-medical circles, there are many methods that are known to treat PE very well, and even cure it. They center around learning to control the physical and mental triggers to your orgasm. The core of these is relaxation techniques, however there are other physical factors as well.

Where to Get Good Advice?

So how do we avoid all these issues and move past having PE? My advice is get an ebook. You can buy and download one in the privacy of your own home, so noone needs to know. You can then follow the steps in your own time and get over your issue without all the embarrassment and pain involved with getting doctors involved. There are many ebooks around, so I suggest you search for reviews before you buy. Also make sure there is a clear refund and/or money back policy.

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In very simple terms, premature ejaculation is defined as the condition when the man ejaculates too soon, that is, before the female partner – or indeed, he himself – has arrived at a sexual climax. When this happens, there is a lot of dissatisfaction from the sexual act, which could lead to frustrations and even issues between married partners. Statistics reveal that premature ejaculation is one of the most important sexual incompatibility causes for divorces in the world today.

There are two basic types of premature ejaculation. The first is primary premature ejaculation, where the man has suffered from premature ejaculation all through his life, i.e. he has never ejaculated after prolonged sex. The other type – what most men of the world are suffering from – is called secondary premature ejaculation. This is when the man ejaculates prematurely later in life due to some inner condition.

Though premature ejaculation occurs in men of most ages, young men are more prone to suffer from this disorder. The main cause behind this could be the inexperience of the young men indulging in sex. The excitement and the frenzy associated with the first few sexual encounters of a man’s life can also cause the ejaculation to be premature. This is the reason why most women prefer older men. As men grow older, they learn better the tricks of self control. This makes them hold out better and let go only when they are sure their female partners have reached their own sexual climax.

In some cultures, premature ejaculation is more prevalent than in others. This is because of sexual taboos that children are made to grow up with. These young boys grow up thinking that masturbation is some kind of a dirty act. Hence, when they get the urge they may masturbate quickly in the bathroom or in some hidden place for fear of being found out. Naturally, they ejaculate too soon. This habit remains with them when they grow up, and they develop conditions of premature ejaculation.

The number of treatment methods available in the market purporting to be ‘cures’ for premature ejaculation is a good indicator of how widespread this condition is among men. Men believe that they come too soon to be satisfactory to their partners. The root cause behind this is pornographic films. Porn is responsible for perpetrating several myths about sex; and one among them are the thirty-odd minute long sessions of couples having sex. Though this is not unreal, the fact is that most couples would not stretch the actual penetrative act by more than a few minutes. As a result, a man watching a porn movie would find something lacking in the way he performs his sexual act.

Talking about cures for premature ejaculation, there is no real treatment for the issue. The reason behind this is that premature ejaculation is not a disease at all. Ejaculating before time can be controlled simply by exercising more mind play into the act. The squeeze technique is very effective in controlling premature ejaculation. This is done by masturbating the penis till the semen is just about to be released. At this time, the glans of the penis is squeezed in order to the stop the ejaculation. Masturbation is continued after the urge to ejaculate passes away. This process of masturbate – squeeze – masturbate again is repeated for a number of times. This method is also known to increase the bulk of the semen when it is finally reached.

There are some numbing creams that can be used for premature ejaculation. It must be noted that these creams are not treatments for premature ejaculation, but they are just tools used to delay the ejaculation. When these creams are applied, then the penis loses some of its sensation and hence the arousal can continue for a longer period of time.

Yoga is known to be one of the most effective methods of solving problems of premature ejaculation. There are several asanas which teach mind control, by which a man can prolong the pleasures he receives from sex. Methods to relieve the mind from stress are being very commonly applied by men today, and this has direct relation with the quest to find a solution to premature ejaculation. This explains why couples after marriage go to a secluded place for their honeymoons. Such places can help the couple to unwind, become more comfortable with each other and hence have a stress-free first sexual encounter. Doctors advocate men suffering from premature ejaculation to take their partners out on a vacation to a silent place. In most cases this has found to have great benefits in solving premature ejaculation problems.

Finally, it must be remembered that premature ejaculation is something that is not a permanent condition. Every person ejaculates at different times during different sexual encounters, and hence what time period qualifies for premature ejaculation is a highly debatable topic. Most men may ejaculate under one minute some times and have a prolonged sexual session some other time. Hence, premature ejaculation is a highly relative issue.

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Why do Asian Men Have Issues With Dating Other Women?

I have spent a lot of time really thinking why this problem only affects Asian guys. Why is it so hard for Asian men to date white women or any women of other race?

I think to answer this question, we really have to dig into the whole Asian culture and history of the Asian mindset. Asian culture tends to put a lot of emphasis on sticking together and creating harmony and comformoty and this is more important than western ideals of independence, speaking your mind and having an opinion. From they are you, Asian men are taught to conform, do as told by their elders. And if he dares to go against what is expected – a slap across the mouth from a parent.

There is so much to be proud of in Asian culture, but the average Asian guy often gets to rigid and over obedient because of the conditioning he receives at home. He carries this with him and that’s were the problems begin with social interactions being a mess and dating in particular.

He is seen by white girls as rigid, uncomfortable and not at ease in interactions and quiet – even a ‘rock’ – who sites there but doesn’t say much or contribute. The girls may even think he is weird or creep out. He fades into the background and that’s a sad place to be.

BUT..

It’s not the end of the world, it isn’t the final truth. Being Asian is far from a handicap, it’s just cultural background, a history, something to be proud of. In fact, there are Asian guys who have phenomonal success with women – of all races. They would laugh at the suggestions in that study, because THEY KNOW BETTER.

In a new, unique product created by Ryker Koh called Asian Dating Superstars, 13 of the worlds top Asian dating coaches come together to answer ALL the questions Asian guys have about how to transform into a confident, attractive Asian man that women love. They all agree that once Asian men realize that they can be very attractive to women, that is when they automatically become confident and attractive to women.

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